Comments on: It Isn’t Easy Being A Teenager These Days http://johnsadventures.com/archives/2006/11/it_isnt_easy_being_a_teenager_these_days/ The personal website of John Conners, a Scotsman living in Yorkshire who loves photography and writes software for a living Tue, 07 Feb 2012 05:45:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Ashley http://johnsadventures.com/archives/2006/11/it_isnt_easy_being_a_teenager_these_days/comment-page-1/#comment-63990 Ashley Mon, 07 Nov 2011 10:45:24 +0000 http://www.johnsadventures.com/wp/archives/2006/11/it-isnt-easy-being-a-teenager-these-days.html#comment-63990 heyy yah i kinda agree about the fact that teenagers think about themselves im a teenager,15, and i have got the same thoughts too but yeah i would like to think bout others too after i have thought about myself but apparently i dont have time to think bout the others because,people must understand, i have got stuff im engaged to and only if i have finished mine, can i think about the others!! what is wrong in thinking so? heyy
yah i kinda agree about the fact that teenagers think about themselves
im a teenager,15, and i have got the same thoughts too
but yeah i would like to think bout others too after i have thought about myself but apparently i dont have time to think bout the others because,people must understand, i have got stuff im engaged to and only if i have finished mine, can i think about the others!!
what is wrong in thinking so?

]]> By: Robert (from iceland) http://johnsadventures.com/archives/2006/11/it_isnt_easy_being_a_teenager_these_days/comment-page-1/#comment-32398 Robert (from iceland) Thu, 08 Jul 2010 23:49:57 +0000 http://www.johnsadventures.com/wp/archives/2006/11/it-isnt-easy-being-a-teenager-these-days.html#comment-32398 hi, im 17 years old and as you said i feel like everyone is always trying to tell me what to do and what to say and think and it really gets me frustrated and annoyed. hi, im 17 years old and as you said i feel like everyone is always trying to tell me what to do and what to say and think and it really gets me frustrated and annoyed.

]]> By: Kate http://johnsadventures.com/archives/2006/11/it_isnt_easy_being_a_teenager_these_days/comment-page-1/#comment-30010 Kate Mon, 19 Apr 2010 14:32:51 +0000 http://www.johnsadventures.com/wp/archives/2006/11/it-isnt-easy-being-a-teenager-these-days.html#comment-30010 Wow, remarkably told. I am 16 years old, and all that is written is true, not counting figures, on the contrary I consider myself a chur thin. I read at the precise moment when my mother had a fight, now I seem to understand that I must ask for forgiveness. Thank you very much. P.S. I apologize for the grammar, since it is the only was capable of a translator, I am not from English speaking countries :-) Wow, remarkably told. I am 16 years old, and all that is written is true, not counting figures, on the contrary I consider myself a chur thin. I read at the precise moment when my mother had a fight, now I seem to understand that I must ask for forgiveness. Thank you very much.
P.S. I apologize for the grammar, since it is the only was capable of a translator, I am not from English speaking countries :-)

]]> By: Maram http://johnsadventures.com/archives/2006/11/it_isnt_easy_being_a_teenager_these_days/comment-page-1/#comment-24231 Maram Sun, 25 Oct 2009 20:08:27 +0000 http://www.johnsadventures.com/wp/archives/2006/11/it-isnt-easy-being-a-teenager-these-days.html#comment-24231 That's true. I do take on board your point, and agree wholeheartedly. I'm not talking about the final paragraph (where you addressed the issue), more so the rest of it. I suppose it was just the "you" in the article that made me feel singled out, as if I didn't have a choice; "since you are teenager, you must have this mindset". The thing with society is that it criticises any group it can get a hold of: it's not only teenagers that are frowned upon, but also teachers, NHS staff, policemen, politicians etc etc. There isn't a single group in society which hasn't been disapproved of in one way or another at some point. Adults do tend to have "selective memories" when it comes to their teenager years, but then so do teenagers when it comes to their childhood years (I don't know what the point that I'm trying to make here is, actually. :S). As for empathy, you're right. But I would say that not many adults have amazing empathy skills. How many decisions are made about students without them being consulted? How many healthcare workers become desensetised to emotional suffering and death? Sometimes it's the shred of childhood innocence combined with the beginnings of empathy that result in the most beautiful response of all. :) As for the drinking, I think you have a good point. ;) But drinking still freaks me out, especially seeing people get really emotional when drunk and their maturity decreasing by about 10 years! But ah well, time will tell, eh? ;) That’s true. I do take on board your point, and agree wholeheartedly. I’m not talking about the final paragraph (where you addressed the issue), more so the rest of it. I suppose it was just the “you” in the article that made me feel singled out, as if I didn’t have a choice; “since you are teenager, you must have this mindset”.

The thing with society is that it criticises any group it can get a hold of: it’s not only teenagers that are frowned upon, but also teachers, NHS staff, policemen, politicians etc etc. There isn’t a single group in society which hasn’t been disapproved of in one way or another at some point. Adults do tend to have “selective memories” when it comes to their teenager years, but then so do teenagers when it comes to their childhood years (I don’t know what the point that I’m trying to make here is, actually. :S).

As for empathy, you’re right. But I would say that not many adults have amazing empathy skills. How many decisions are made about students without them being consulted? How many healthcare workers become desensetised to emotional suffering and death? Sometimes it’s the shred of childhood innocence combined with the beginnings of empathy that result in the most beautiful response of all. :)

As for the drinking, I think you have a good point. ;) But drinking still freaks me out, especially seeing people get really emotional when drunk and their maturity decreasing by about 10 years! But ah well, time will tell, eh? ;)

]]> By: John Conners http://johnsadventures.com/archives/2006/11/it_isnt_easy_being_a_teenager_these_days/comment-page-1/#comment-24067 John Conners Mon, 19 Oct 2009 21:06:03 +0000 http://www.johnsadventures.com/wp/archives/2006/11/it-isnt-easy-being-a-teenager-these-days.html#comment-24067 Ha ha, of course I'm generalising! ;) My point wasn't really about being a teenager, it's that people forget that they were ever teenagers and look with scorn at them as though they always have evil intentions when in fact they're just being teenagers. As for empathy, as I say it's not your fault, that's the final piece of human brain development. For some people they have empathy from early teenage years, some later and some never do. And I take your point, a lot of people never move past the insecurities and hang ups of their teenage years. But of course there are exceptions to every rule, we're all individuals after all, and we're constantly changing. Hey, give it a couple of years and you might change your mind about drinking! ;) Ha ha, of course I’m generalising! ;) My point wasn’t really about being a teenager, it’s that people forget that they were ever teenagers and look with scorn at them as though they always have evil intentions when in fact they’re just being teenagers.

As for empathy, as I say it’s not your fault, that’s the final piece of human brain development. For some people they have empathy from early teenage years, some later and some never do. And I take your point, a lot of people never move past the insecurities and hang ups of their teenage years. But of course there are exceptions to every rule, we’re all individuals after all, and we’re constantly changing. Hey, give it a couple of years and you might change your mind about drinking! ;)

]]> By: Maram http://johnsadventures.com/archives/2006/11/it_isnt_easy_being_a_teenager_these_days/comment-page-1/#comment-24065 Maram Mon, 19 Oct 2009 20:56:20 +0000 http://www.johnsadventures.com/wp/archives/2006/11/it-isnt-easy-being-a-teenager-these-days.html#comment-24065 Um, isn't this generalising a bit? Not all teenagers are unempathetic, selfish and insecure. In a world where body image is prevelant, self-esteem is low across all groups of society... granted, it might be higher amongst teens, but that doesn't mean it's limited to them. A LOT of adults think they're fat. :) Empathy is something learned throughout the teenager years, so I have to disagree with you saying that teens are incapable of appreciating opinions. Personally, I think drinking is pointless, but again, it's not just teenagers that drink... young adults drink, middle-aged adults drink, probable people post-adult stage also drink! :D I think with school you get people who hate it, but then you also get people who realise how important it is, and then you get people who love it... that's the impression I get, anyhow (I'm 15). Point is, this article is only representative of a proportion of adolescents, whether majority or minority, I don't know. :) Um, isn’t this generalising a bit? Not all teenagers are unempathetic, selfish and insecure. In a world where body image is prevelant, self-esteem is low across all groups of society… granted, it might be higher amongst teens, but that doesn’t mean it’s limited to them. A LOT of adults think they’re fat. :) Empathy is something learned throughout the teenager years, so I have to disagree with you saying that teens are incapable of appreciating opinions. Personally, I think drinking is pointless, but again, it’s not just teenagers that drink… young adults drink, middle-aged adults drink, probable people post-adult stage also drink! :D I think with school you get people who hate it, but then you also get people who realise how important it is, and then you get people who love it… that’s the impression I get, anyhow (I’m 15). Point is, this article is only representative of a proportion of adolescents, whether majority or minority, I don’t know. :)

]]> By: kelly http://johnsadventures.com/archives/2006/11/it_isnt_easy_being_a_teenager_these_days/comment-page-1/#comment-15672 kelly Mon, 09 Feb 2009 21:34:35 +0000 http://www.johnsadventures.com/wp/archives/2006/11/it-isnt-easy-being-a-teenager-these-days.html#comment-15672 well all people care how they look some time in their lives and thats mainly throughout their teen life. my times not come yet. i know that. but im slowly changing very early. so im a tomboy. getting a little bit of a girly girl some times. but thats just cause i get bored. guys have their own worries. i dont know what they are as im not a guy but girls do know some. as their looks are tough on both sexes. ok skool now. i will rite some o=more when i get back. well all people care how they look some time in their lives and thats mainly throughout their teen life. my times not come yet. i know that. but im slowly changing very early. so im a tomboy. getting a little bit of a girly girl some times. but thats just cause i get bored.

guys have their own worries. i dont know what they are as im not a guy but girls do know some. as their looks are tough on both sexes.

ok skool now. i will rite some o=more when i get back.

]]> By: Arthur http://johnsadventures.com/archives/2006/11/it_isnt_easy_being_a_teenager_these_days/comment-page-1/#comment-15662 Arthur Mon, 09 Feb 2009 15:50:31 +0000 http://www.johnsadventures.com/wp/archives/2006/11/it-isnt-easy-being-a-teenager-these-days.html#comment-15662 Hmm u r right i dont see many teens who tihnks like you these years. Im arthur and im 15 gonna be 16 in october. I do care about how i look actually even tho i just can't reach my goal. I got many problems especially with school and the pressure of makin a life changin choice. What i reaaly think is being a teenage boy is harder than being a teenage girl and thats because you have many many more things to take care of way much than girls and thats what makes my life hard. Hmm u r right i dont see many teens who tihnks like you these years. Im arthur and im 15 gonna be 16 in october. I do care about how i look actually even tho i just can’t reach my goal. I got many problems especially with school and the pressure of makin a life changin choice. What i reaaly think is being a teenage boy is harder than being a teenage girl and thats because you have many many more things to take care of way much than girls and thats what makes my life hard.

]]> By: kelly http://johnsadventures.com/archives/2006/11/it_isnt_easy_being_a_teenager_these_days/comment-page-1/#comment-9122 kelly Tue, 19 Aug 2008 07:54:21 +0000 http://www.johnsadventures.com/wp/archives/2006/11/it-isnt-easy-being-a-teenager-these-days.html#comment-9122 hey. im kelly im 14 but australian. like charlie williams i wasnt looking for this but decided to read it. as i said im australian but we have the same problem here. girls think they are not pretty enough. and adults dont hang with teens that much. but im not like them. i dont care how i look. i like talkin to adults and tehy like talkin to me. i dont do wat they do these days like steal or rob and have bad attitudes. im polite. im old school. i dont like the schools and teens these days. so yeah not all teens are like that. im so old school. hey. im kelly im 14 but australian. like charlie williams i wasnt looking for this but decided to read it. as i said im australian but we have the same problem here. girls think they are not pretty enough. and adults dont hang with teens that much. but im not like them. i dont care how i look. i like talkin to adults and tehy like talkin to me. i dont do wat they do these days like steal or rob and have bad attitudes. im polite. im old school. i dont like the schools and teens these days. so yeah not all teens are like that. im so old school.

]]> By: John Conners http://johnsadventures.com/archives/2006/11/it_isnt_easy_being_a_teenager_these_days/comment-page-1/#comment-1755 John Conners Sun, 09 Sep 2007 19:11:38 +0000 http://www.johnsadventures.com/wp/archives/2006/11/it-isnt-easy-being-a-teenager-these-days.html#comment-1755 Hi Charlie, it's a tough time of your life for sure - but make the most of your youth while you have it, it goes in a flash! :) Hi Charlie, it’s a tough time of your life for sure – but make the most of your youth while you have it, it goes in a flash! :)

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