Comments on: Losing My Mother

By: carolina

carolina — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 19:58:03 +0000

just wanted to send you a “thank you” for this lovely written entry about your mother. i lost mine when i was 14 and although as you stated, one learns to live with an event like that… however, from time to time, the pain comes back and it hits you like a ton of bricks. that’s what has been happening to me of late, and it’s why i typed “losing a mother” into google and your link came up. i wish no one had to feel this kind of pain due to such a tragic loss but i’m thankful at times, when reading things like your entry… to know that i’m not alone.

cheers.

By: salooja

salooja — Wed, 18 Jan 2012 15:02:00 +0000

My mother died 33 days ago, i cannot express what i am going through. She was such a wonderful. loving mother. Love is not the word to express what she had for me, my bro & sis. She was crazy about us. Its so painful to lose her, I dont have words to tell you how i felt when I saw on life support. I still remember her wet eyes when she saw me for the last time. I really really need help. I loved Jesus all my life (I m 29), but he could not save her instead he made us see my mom on death bed with 2 to 3 life support machines around her fragile body, My Old Girl was suffering I we ‘her chrildern’ were helpless. Really dont know how i am going to live the rest of my life.. after her death i really felt & understood what darkness, sadness, grief, pain is all about.

Dont know how??????????///// to come out of this grief. I m not able to move on……………….

By: sophia

sophia — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 09:36:43 +0000

I lost my mother on 5th November 2011.I now have a different look at life.I have realized that she has left a gap that no one else will ever fill it.

By: Jen

Jen — Fri, 18 Nov 2011 04:13:19 +0000

I am nearly 22 and i lost my mum through cancer when i was 16. I done my GCSE’s 2 weeks after. I carried on as if nothing was wrong, i was out with friends within a few days of her dying and people used to say how they couldnt cope if they where me (which didnt help) and i felt that people didnt think I cared. I find it harder than ever now and its 5 and a half years on. I have dreams every night about my mum (hence why I’m up now) dont know if theres something wrong with me? Had dreams about her alive, and ive had different dreams of her dying and different dreams of the funeral (which was a completely different funeral to what she had. Every day that goes by I miss her more and more. I’m in university and I study Radiotherapy and oncology which is treating people with cancer, I love it! but i see people who are really ill on a daily basis and I’m not sure if this is contributing to me not getting over it, or if its making the grief worse. I have tried counselling etc and CBT because i suffered from severe panic attacks since she died, although they seemed to help temporarily i dont think they can change anything. Sometimes I am happy and other times i am so depressed and this can be within a period of 5 minutes. I knew my mum had cancer, but call me niave i was 16 and never in a million years thought she would die, it was such a shock for me and my family because we were told she was having treatment that was for a cure she would get worse before she got better, even then she looked fine to me. I said to my cousin last week that she looked fit and healthy and i had no clue that she was going to die, but he thought she deteriorated really bad (this shocked me alot). Even whilst writing this i thought for a split second that i was lying, and that she was still alive. I think I am crazy. Rant over x

By: Keith Spaulding

Keith Spaulding — Wed, 16 Nov 2011 11:16:07 +0000

I know exactly what you are going through my mom also died from cancer last month 10-16-2011, a day i will never forget two days after my birthday, you never know what your mother means to you until she’s gone it was and still is a monumental moment in my life i will NEVER forget her and man i tell you when your mother goes you start looking at your clock and then you realize just how precious life is. words of advice: dont waste one moment on bullshit that moment is a lifetime that you dont get back love as much as you can hug as long as you can and enjoy the simple things in life because they are the things that give us joy the most, dont be blurred by the fast pace of the world find your own lane and ride out the way you want to.

By: Kyle

Kyle — Fri, 14 Oct 2011 05:34:06 +0000

I lost my mother nearly 13 years ago to a brain tumor, on March 10th 1999. I was 12 years old when she died. Every year it never gets any easier. My sisters and I still miss and love her so much. Here I am nearly 25 years old now and I’m not sure if I’ll ever get over her being gone for the rest of my life. I know she is watching over us, it just hurts me to know that I can’t remember her that much any more.

By: ag

ag — Thu, 06 Oct 2011 02:40:31 +0000

Thank you for writing this my mother was diagnosed in july with pancreatic cancer a month after i got engaged, we went from celebrating and planning to having my mom come home to hospice. I cant grasp it all happened so fast, she is my rock and literally has taught my sister and I to be the strong woman we are today. To watch her go through what cancer has done to such a lively and family oriented woman i can;t describe, but it makes me angry to know it has taken so many other peoples family members. I dont think I will ever understand any of this but thank you for blogging its nice to know someone else has gone through the same thing….

By: Jackie

Jackie — Fri, 16 Sep 2011 04:54:11 +0000

I just lost my mom to ovarian cancer on 25 August 2011…my heart is broken…I miss her so very much. It’s like I’m missing a part of myself! I just want to be with her. If it weren’t for my kids I’m not sure I could get through this. We became so incredibly close during her journey, she was to get surgery after three chemo treatments but unfortunately the chemo did not work, the cancer was rampant and she lost her fight for her life. I just want to touch her, smell her, hold her, hug her, kiss her and hear her voice…I listen to her voicemails all the time. I just want to pick up the phone and call her. I beg her to come to me in my dreams just so I can see her again…reading your story helped me to know I am not alone in the pain of losing my mom, my reason for living, she is the reason I am who I am…I miss her so…it somehow makes me not afraid to die, but I promised her I would be strong for my kids as they are just 11 & 13 years old…thank you for sharing your story.

By: paula

paula — Sun, 04 Sep 2011 10:03:37 +0000

Hi John, don’t know if you r still on this website, but reading your story really helped me, I am really finding it hard with losing my
mother, best friend, finding it really hard to cope, only lost her three months ago. Any suggestions on how to cope. Paula

By: Jacob Shipton

Jacob Shipton — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 03:59:40 +0000

It has been almost a year since my mother died of cancer. It only took 5 weeks for the cancer to destroy her and kill her. I was only 24 at the time. The grieving process has been particularly difficult for me because I still live in the family home. So I still expect to see her walk around the corner or come down the stairs. Some days are better than others. But for me there isnt a day that goes by that I do not cry for a few minutes every day. Whoever said time heals all wounds lies. It doesnt heal the wound, it only puts more bandages on the wound but it still refuses to heal. She was my greatest friend and my greatest enemy. I loved her dearly but we disagreed on almost everything. But, despite all that, she was my whole world. And I miss her so much till this very day.